My day job had me traveling until late Friday night last week 🛬 . I didn’t miss a beat at home, jumping right back into Dad role the next morning. My son and I have 1:1 time Saturday mornings to give Mom some individual space to do what she pleases 💓.

Next thing I knew it was Sunday night at 9p and I was exhausted 😪 .

This morning over my early ☕️ I realized a couple things happened this weekend that might be helpful for the Appairent community to 👂️:

1. My intention didn’t match my execution. 
   I completed the intended actions (hooray!), but my heart wasn’t all-in. I was beat. I probably missed some of the joy of doing some intentional parenting while I earned my wife some of her own self-care time.

   I still gave myself a pat on the back: sometimes you just gotta show up and that’s > half the battle.

2. I completely forgot to practice what I preach.

   I got so damn caught up this weekend that I didn’t follow my own plan. I’ve been trying REALLY hard to make a 15 minute window to calendar time. Specifically I prioritize blocking time for my wife to do something she wants, or for us to work together on something we want.

   I chose to give that 15 minutes away. It stole some peace and joy. Choose wisely.

3. I fixated on the unfinished 😔… the reality is I got a LOT done 💪!!

   Things I didn’t get done: pushing new content on Instagram this weekend; unpacking last week’s work trip bag; that good bottle of Cab I opened Saturday. But I did take a boat full of people to a music festival, put my son to bed, got the car washed, folded laundry, and developed several new aspects of Appairent content. Why let your mind spiral on the laundry list (and laundry) that will never end?

   Take a 🍺 half full approach: take inventory of all you DID do. It’s probably impressive.

On the way from Appairent

This Saturday I’ll share our first “playbook” to help with your home roles. The idea is for me to give you a template that saves you time, delights your wife/partner and let’s you do the things you actually enjoy. My hope is this saves you time and reduces mental load that often becomes a non-starter for taking the actions you intend to take.

This week I’ll start by showing you the formula I’ve been working on for myself. I’m hoping to make it more of a system so it’s 1) easier for me to help you 2) anyone could take the system and run with it if they need tweaks to fit their lifestyle, schedule, etc.

Here’s to getting after it this week, in all your roles. 🥂,
Hattie