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Count what you DO
Give yourself some grace. It's what you did, not what you didn't.
Michael Hatfield
April 29, 2024
While you can have virtually anything you want, you can't have everything you want.
We all have that moment. I didn’t cut the grass. I didn’t finish cleaning the basement. I didn’t give a bath like I planned. I didn’t tell my wife how great she was today, b/c we both fell asleep sitting up. I didn’t hang with the guys this weekend.
Don’t get caught in that trap. What DID you do? You probably did:
help get a chore done you and your wife wanted done.
spend time with one or all of your kids and make some smiles and memories.
got the kids fed and out the door to the other places outisde the home where they will learn to grow into adults.
leave a pile of laundry in exchange for time well spent with family, friends, wife, or all of the above.
In my home, I adjusted Dalio’s mantra to fit what most do in our parenting, our partnering and our individual free time and self-care: we can DO anything. We can’t do everything. You probably did some good in your home life. Bank it, and get some contentment from it!
If you didn’t, re-examine and adjust. It’s only Monday. I sent out some tactical ways to DO things this past Saturday. Do just one of those things for your partner, your kids, or yourself. Right now. Put one in the “did” category 👏 .
And then: rest 😌 .
Best,
Hattie